Kathy Collins Best transformational Life coach
Kathy Collins (Coach Kathryne) is a seasoned transformational coach whose holistic approach to coaching helps her clients in bringing clarity, direction, and positive support to each coaching session. She helps clients who are ready to walk through their pain after the loss of a spouse through divorce or death so that they can gain confidence and peace to finally feel like themselves again and to live the life they love. Coach Kathy Collins does this by taking her clients through a proven step-by-step system.
In this Spotlight, Will from Delenta chats to Coach Kathy Collins about her coaching, life experiences, and her process for helping women transform their lives.
Hi Kathy Collins, thanks for meeting with me today. Could you start by telling us your story?
I began in corporate, and then when my children became teenagers I switched to higher education to spend more time at home. What started my coaching journey was my first marriage, which was toxic and ended in a divorce. This then led me into wanting to help women who were in a similar situation, to let them know that your past doesn’t define you. You can move beyond your current situation and create a life for yourself.
I started coaching in 2014, focusing on divorces. I then had to stop my coaching business because my second husband got very sick and I had to take care of him. Unfortunately he passed away in 2020.
“Your Past Doesn’t Define You”
This was another reason I wanted to get back into coaching. Then after I lost a high-paying job in 2021, I realised this was the universe’s way of telling me that I needed to get back to my calling of being a coach. I want to help women who have been through traumatic situations of all kinds – whether it’s a divorce, the loss of a spouse, the loss of a loved one.
I want to walk alongside them in their journey, and help them find confidence in themselves and find peace so that they can get back on the track of dreaming again, getting back to the vision of their life again. Their dark night experiences do not define who they are.
Did you always want to be a coach?
I’ve always liked helping people – I’ve always been that go-to person and this was one of the reasons I transitioned into higher education. I started out as an academic advisor before moving into teaching. And I’ve done mentor ship at the university level with students – I really like the part of being an encourager, I like to build people’s confidence and let them know that they have the power within them to achieve what they want to achieve.
That’s always been a part of me, but my experiences made me want to go into coaching. I wanted to help a broader scope of individuals who might be going through certain situations – to help them when they are asking themselves tough questions such as ‘how can I move on?’ and ‘how can I move forward?’.
I want to let people know that they have the power within themselves to achieve what they want to achieve.
Thank you for sharing your story with me, Kathy Collins. Do you find it difficult to talk about your experiences?
Not any more. I can now use my experience to help those in similar situations. I have learned to forgive myself and learned to face my fear. I am open to sharing my story to help somebody else in their journey
When a client comes to you looking for help, what is your process?
First I send them an intake form where I ask them a little bit about themselves and why they want to be coached. Then I ask them about the areas of their life that they are suffering discontent with. Their health, their relationships, their financial situation, their freedom…which of them is causing the most discontent, and why? Then I will ask them about what their expectations are: what is the end result that they want from their coaching sessions?
But everybody is different – they might be in the same situation, such as losing a spouse, but every journey is different. My journey is different from your journey – what I choose to do is what makes my journey successful. No one can tell you what your life should be like, so the key is to always work where your client is comfortable.
“Always Work Where Your Client is Comfortable”
If the client is not ready to make the change then the change will never come. You are the only person who can make the decision if you want to stay where you are if you want to go towards something else.
How do you go about doing that? Helping the client to be ready to make the change?
You have to ask the big, tough questions. Where are they at, where do they want to go, and how do they want to get there?
For example, if my client was having marital problems and contemplating leaving their husband, I would ask them questions that help them to evaluate their relationship and help to identify the root cause of the issue. Are the issues with him, or your perception of the relationship? I can then ask certain questions: ‘okay, look at the reason you fell in love with him – are the reasons still there? Is he still the same person?’ If the answer is yes then I might ask how you know the grass is greener on the other side? You cannot change anyone else, only who you are.
But like I said, every journey is different. In another marriage the root cause of the issues might be a toxic relationship, rather than with the perception of it. In this case I would help her to realise that she is still a woman of value. Sometimes in a relationship you can feel so beaten down and devalued. I want to work with her to make her realise that she still has value and there is still hope – she can then evaluate the situation on her own terms. But I wouldn’t tell her what to do – everybody sees things through different lenses.